There’s a growing trend in family and motherhood photography that places unstyled, imperfect, everyday moments above everything else. Often, it quietly suggests that anything styled or curated is somehow less honest. I don’t fully agree.
To me, styling doesn’t negate authenticity. It reflects a different layer of it.
When I'm nursing my baby, tending to her, watching her exist in the world, I don't experience myself as ordinary in my inner world. I don't see the bags under my eyes or my sweatpants. I experience something dreamlike. Tender. Elevated. I look at her, impossibly beautiful, and through that lens, I see myself differently too. Not as I look every minute of the day, but as motherhood feels from the inside.
That internal experience is romantic. And romanticizing it in an image doesn't make it false-it makes it truthful to the emotion.
Authenticity to the emotion
Motherhood doesn't only live in chaos, undone hair, or uncoordinated moments. It also lives in reverie. In softness. In the way the world feels suspended for a second. A styled/curated session can honor that just as honestly as an unplanned one.
motherhood is everything all at once
Authenticity lives in the moments. wether you look the way you do in your everyday or not. wether they happen in a scenic location, studio or you home. None of those things makes then less or more real.
Simply put authenticity isn't only found in a specific version of yourself or your family
What Actually Makes a Session Feel Authentic
Authenticity in a session has far less to do with styling, and much more to do with how a photographer holds space, how they guide their clients, what they notice, and what they choose to emphasize in post-production.
It's an approach. A way of seeing and being present. Of letting real emotion, movement, and connection lead. That's where authenticity lives. Not in the absence of intention, but in a deep connection to the human experience.
The role of the photographer
There's nothing wrong with wanting to feel extra confident and beautiful by dressing up, putting some make up on and doing your hair (specially for an experience that can feel quite vulnerable). There's also nothing wrong with wanting to capture the unfiltered version of yourself and your family. Both can exist side by side, each holding a different truth, each serving a different season or desire.
There Is Room for Both
There is room and value for photographs that feel raw and spontaneous, and for images that feel intentional and poetic.
Both can be real.
Both can be honest.